Want to be successful? Just be yourself!

Last week I talked about how you don’t have to be perfect to be successful. Sometimes, in fact, you do everything just right, and things still don’t work out. You planned carefully, put your intentions out to the Universe, crossed all your t’s and dotted all your i’s, and still, life has a funny way of derailing the best laid plans at times.

When that happens, it’s pretty easy to feel frustrated, impatient, angry, overwhelmed, confused, disappointed, and unsure of yourself.Even worse, I notice a lot of my clients and friends take things a step further and start being really hard on themselves for not being perfect and making the outcome work out they way they intended. So add to the original feelings a lot of guilt, self-loathing and berating.

This is a pretty rough place to be in and can start a downward spiral that takes you further and further from the success and abundance you want in your life.

When life happens to derail your best laid plans, I encourage you to take a step back and practice what the Buddhists call non-attachment.Non-attachment is letting go of your attachment to the outcome, and also letting go of your false sense of control over the situation.Release your misplaced responsibility, and approach yourself with compassion. Even if you do find that there was a true mistake of judgment that you made in the situation, you can apologize, learn your lesson and move on from it without being mean to yourself.

I learned about non-attachment over the last three years on my journey with chronic pain.I know all the tricks for managing pain, and sometimes even my best intentions don’t work.Pain, like so many things in life, often has a mind and a purpose of it’s own that is completely outside of my conscious control.In the beginning, I would inflict a lot of anger and self-hatred on my body for subjecting me to this misery, but I eventually realized that this wasn’t getting me anywhere but more unhappy.

I realized that just like when completely unanticipated things happen, I can’t always control pain.But I can control my response and actions.I can choose not to have an angry or knee-jerk reaction and instead to respond to the situation at hand in a way that feels right and aligned with my original intentions.

I came up with this simple process for dealing with a flare-up and dealing with unanticipated life situations that throw me for a loop.Step 1 ~ Stop: Take a deep breath and release the need to be in control of the situation on your exhale.Step 2 ~ Listen: Ask your Core self, Inner Voice or Intuition what do I need right now? Listen for the answer as long as you need until you are certain.Step 3 ~ Respond with a Loving Action: Choose how you want to respond to the situation from a loving place.Be kind to yourself, the other people involved and even allow yourself to laugh a bit about the predicament you are in.

If you can, thank the Universe for this lesson to slow down, reassess and get clarity.What I’ve discovered is that when I can approach the unexpected, unplanned interruptions with compassion, and even a bit of gratitude, another opportunity presents itself.

In fact, success is not doing things perfect all the time, or even part of the time.Success comes when you are confident enough in yourself and your convictions to weather the ups and downs of the unexpected and jump on the opportunities that present themselves to you. Success is the result of your ability to respond in each situation in a way that’s aligned with your goals and values, instead of getting lost in a self-defeating cycle of self-abuse, guilt and anger.

Practicing the three simple steps I outlined for you above can help you become successful.If you want or need more support and guidance in transforming your approach to challenges and roadblocks,Succeed Like a Divamay be for you. It’ll bring you through a transformational journey within the loving, compassionate support of a mastermind group.

You’ll learn new techniques for dealing with roadblocks, and you will step into the empowerment to courageously live a life of abundance and vibrancy.You will also learn how to shift into theDiva Successway of being that doesn’t get stuck at roadblocks so you can live from your heart in a way that naturally and effortlessly attracts the opportunities and success that you desire.It starts May 2nd, and the early bird rates are in effect until April 25th. Check out the rest of the detailshere. Want to be successful? Just be yourself!20186Want to be successful? Just be yourself!Being successful is not about being perfect.

A student asked me this week whether it was ok to take the course to become a Reiki Master even though she wasn’t perfectly healed and balanced yet.

I assured her and the rest of the class that none of us ever become perfect. We’re always a work in progress.

I am far from perfect. I never find time to iron my clothes or clean out my car. Sometimes I show up late for appointments, and I’m particularly bad at returning phone calls.Yet that doesn’t stop me from being fabulous at being myself and what I do with clients.

Becoming a Master, Expert, Diva, or Just Great at What You Do is more about your commitment to being your best self, giving what you do you 100% of your attention while you’re doing it, willingness to always learn new skills and grow as a person, capacity for admitting your flaws, laughing and loving your imperfect self, and making your decisions from your Core self that’s grounded in your values, priorities and long term vision.

Personally, one thing I think all really successful people have in common is a strong sense of self, values, and priorities and an ability to listen to their Core self to help them make decisions that expand their potential beyond limiting beliefs and fears.

I’ve come to learn that the Core self is that Inner Voice that empowers you when you need to be strong, gives you great advice and guidance when you need to make a decision, and comes up with fabulously creative ideas and inspiration.

Your Core self is not your mind or your emotions, I believe it’s your higher self, spirit, intuition, gut wisdom or perhaps simply your potential Inner Master, Diva or Expert.What I do know about the Core self is that it’s not limited by fears and beliefs, rather it visions the world from a fearless expansive viewpoint where all things are possible.

Having access to your Core self makes Success easy because decisions, choices, answers, possibilities and inspiration come from a place inside of you that’s confident, courageous and optimistic. It’s a great ally when you’re struggling with something or unsure how to proceed, and it’s an even more powerful ally when you make a decision to be successful.

The Core self never leads you down the wrong path, and I’ve found that the Core self always finds a way for you to manifestthose secret hopes, dreams and desires in your heart.

Gaining access to and developing a relationship with your Core self is easy with the 5 step Clearing your Path for Success process I’ve developed.I’m offering it again as a 4 week telecourse calledSucceed Like a Diva.While the course is geared towards women, it is absolutely open to men as well.

Succeed Like a Divais for the person who is committed to living her most vibrant, abundant life and is willing to go through the process of leaving her limiting beliefs behind so she can become a gorgeous, successful Diva.

Succeed Like a Divawill bring you through a transformational journey where you will find the clarity and confidence about the life you’re meant to be living, and you will step into the empowerment to courageously live a life of abundance and vibrancy.You will also learn how to shift into theDiva Successway of being so you can live from your heart in a way that naturally and effortlessly attracts the opportunities and success that you desire.

If you’re ready to be successful, this course is for you. It starts May 2nd, and the early bird rates are in effect until April 25th. Check out the rest of the detailshere.