Are You Ready To Date? Readiness Quiz

Being successful is not about being perfect.

A student asked me this week whether it was ok to take the course to become a Reiki Master even though she wasn’t perfectly healed and balanced yet.

I assured her and the rest of the class that none of us ever become perfect. We’re always a work in progress.

I am far from perfect. I never find time to iron my clothes or clean out my car. Sometimes I show up late for appointments, and I’m particularly bad at returning phone calls.Yet that doesn’t stop me from being fabulous at being myself and what I do with clients.

Becoming a Master, Expert, Diva, or Just Great at What You Do is more about your commitment to being your best self, giving what you do you 100% of your attention while you’re doing it, willingness to always learn new skills and grow as a person, capacity for admitting your flaws, laughing and loving your imperfect self, and making your decisions from your Core self that’s grounded in your values, priorities and long term vision.

Personally, one thing I think all really successful people have in common is a strong sense of self, values, and priorities and an ability to listen to their Core self to help them make decisions that expand their potential beyond limiting beliefs and fears.

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The Core self never leads you down the wrong path, and I’ve found that the Core self always finds a way for you to manifestthose secret hopes, dreams and desires in your heart.

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If you’re ready to be successful, this course is for you. It starts May 2nd, and the early bird rates are in effect until April 25th. Check out the rest of the detailshere. Are You Ready To Date? Readiness Quiz20187Are You Ready To Date? Readiness QuizIs it time for you to start going out on dates? Have you been out of the dating stream for a while? Do you know how to tell if you are ready to date?

Take a look at this readiness quiz, and give yourself a score of one to 10 on each area (one is low; 10 is high). Add up your points to determine your dating readiness, which is explained at the end of the test. Start your quiz by saying the following:

I’ll know when I’m ready to date and meet interesting people that I may want to consider for a future long-term relationship when:

1. I have a network of support. I have friends and family members who love me and support my endeavors. I talk to them often and see them on a regular basis. If I ever have a major problem (sickness, accident, or crisis) I know whom to call.

2. I have cleaned up my past relationships. I have let go of old relationships that are over (better known asbaggage). They no longer haunt my life. I don’t call my Exto see how she is doing. I have completed my divorce, or said goodbye to the old lover, made peace with my parents, and brought dignified closure to relationships that no longer serve me.

3. I have a career future. I am engaged in a job, studies, or realistic plans that contribute to my career future. I can take care of myself financially, or am well on my way towards that goal.

4. I am open to healthy new adventures. Since dating life is a big adventure, I am open to what lies in store for me. I am brave enough to get out socially and make an effort to talk to people and be friendly. I tell friends and family that I would like to meet someone. I am clear about what is okay with me and what is not, and I am ready to consider new activities.

5. I contribute positively to someone’s life. I do something nice for someone at least once a day. I make an effort to help an elderly person in my neighborhood or I volunteer my services a few hours a week to a charitable organization.

6. I am healthy in mind, body, and spirit. I keep my doctor’s and dentist’s appointments. I am addiction free, have a weekly exercise routine, watch what I eat, and am generally upbeat about life. I am not afraid to say I need help if I am struggling in any of those areas.

7. I am loyal and trustworthy. I am wise enough to know not to gossip about people behind their backs. I am known to keep my word and handle my agreements. I do not say one thing and do another. My friends, neighbors, and family members know that they can count on me.

8. I am responsible with my finances. I am good at budgeting and living within my income, whatever it is. If I am struggling with money problems, I get financial counseling and emotional support. If I am not happy with the amount of money I make, I am good at figuring out how to create what I need by either cutting back on expenses or finding ways to earn more income.

9. I have a strong single life. I am not looking for someone to make my miserable life happy. I have people, activities, hobbies, and work that I love. I wouldn’t mind sharing my life with someone wonderful, but I am complete on my own.

10. I know what I want. I have learned from past relationships and experiences that I have some very definite requirements in order for my life to be happy. If I compromise those requirements, I will not be the person I want to be. I know what my values, requirements, and needs are for my life.

Score from one to 10 on each of these categories and then add them up. The lowest rated areas are the ones you need to work on. While you work on your challenging areas, take a look at your strengths and celebrate them. These are the strengths you take to your dating life.

If you score above 80, you are ready to date with ease. If you score between 80 and 50, you need to take dating slowly while you work on your life.

If you score below 50, give yourself a break from dating and focus on one category you can improve. When you grow strong in one area, several others will improve at the same time.

Your dating life is waiting. Only you can make it happen.

About the Author: Relationship expert Tonja Evetts Weimer is an acclaimed newspaper columnist, speaker and author of the new book, Thriving After Divorce: Transforming your life when a relationship ends. This inspiring book gives people clear action steps to move toward hope and healing when a significant relationship ends. Tonja worked as an educator, award-winning children’s author, singer, performer and consultant before a vocal condition ended her singing career. She reinvented herself as a relationship coach and dating expert. Her Savvy Dating column runs in newspapers across America and Canada. In Thriving After Divorce she helps others overcome challenges through hope, action, creativity and self-empowerment. Visit her public Web site at www.tonjaweimer.com. Contact Tonja at tonja@tonjaweimer.com.