(Step)Martyrs Are Not Loveable
Sometimes I think if I see one more stepmom write but I do everything for them! I cook, I clean, I chauffeur, I help with homework, I clean up their mess, I wipe their snot, and I work full time! I do it all and my (step)children turn their nose at me. They don’t respect me! They don’t appreciate me! And they never say thank you!’ I’m going to respond,Of course they don’t!
Why? Because you’re nothing more than an unending supply of give, give, give so they can take, take, take!
Your cause of giving produces a like effect of taking. There’s a payoff for both the taker (they get their every whim catered to) and the giver (you get to moan, groan, and complain ad nauseum about all that you do for a head tilt, a nod, and a little tea and sympathy).
In Winning Love, Wallace D. Wattles states, you do NOT make people love you by the number of things you do for them. If they love you, it will be for what you ARE. Stepmartyrs (and martyrs in general)overdo the matter of service and without failreceive the contempt of their step-children and in many cases, their husbands.
Stepmartyrs are not true, authentic people. You want to be liked, loved, and appreciated but you go about it in a tried but misguided fashion. Instead of being YOU, you pretend to be someone you think everyone else expects you to be. You deny who YOU really are. You stifle your authentic and glorious self. You make the mistake ofsacrificing yourself for others.
What if, instead of sacrificing yourself, you made the MOST of yourself for others? Maybe your answer depends on another question: Do you want others to pity you or love you?
Wallace asserts thatIf you wish to be loved, you must live your own life. And the more full and complete the life, the more love you will win. When you grow you, when you become a better you, you inevitably become more loveableand that’s what you really desireto be loveable.
Are you ready to start living your own life and make the most of YOU?
What three Stepmartyr things can you give up in the next 30 days?
What three things can you develop in the next 30 days that will help you become a better you?
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