Dealing with Loss

A few weeks ago, I received an email asking me the correct way to offering condolences. First and foremost, say something; don’t avoid. There is no type of loss that should not be acknowledged. Whether the person you know has lost a close family member, a friend, oreven a pet,yourcondolences may be just what that person needed to hear. Of course it is difficult to bringing up the matter that you are certain will cause your friend more pain. However, avoiding the subject altogether and acting like life should just go on is a disservice to the memory of the one who has died.

Depending on how well you know the person suffering, a strong handshake or hug is appropriate. Keep it moderate, but don’t be afraid to offer comfort. Then you should offer your heartfelt sympathy. Never tell someone you know how the feel, as you do not although you too may have experienced a loss at sometime, everyone greaves differently. And. didn’t promise that everything would be fine or mention that time heals all wounds. Offer your support and assistance, mean it and then be available. Remember that it should not be about you. And, finally, respect your friend’s feelings. Don’t cheapen the situation by trying to move past it too quickly

If you are not able to visit in person or you’re just not ready to make a phone call, you might send them a sympathy card.

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Constance Hoffman, President and Coach
Social and Business Graces
www.LearnSocialGraces.com