No Simple Way Through The Grieving Process

JoAnne Funch There is no simple way through the grieving process, I know because I’ve been there.

In 2005 I lost my Mom and husband within a month of each other and later that same year an uncle. I have lost relatives to death before, but this was different. This was the first parent I’ve lost and the only husband I’ve ever had. When someone this close to us dies, we are devastated -on an emotional, physical and spiritual level. I hadn’t had much of a chance to grieve the loss of my mother when my husband passed and now I was grieving a spouse. All my hopes and dreams came crashing in after losing my husband, my life partner.

Initially you find your own way to grieve and then with the help of family and friends hopefully you were guided as I was to outside resources for help.

Initially I recall reading books that talked about some essential points for the grieving-healing process, here are just a few points I found helpful;

  • Recognize the significance of your loss
  • Tell people the story of your relationship with your loved one, in other words talk about what your loved one meant in your life
  • Be sure you have a safe environment when talking and seeking comfort and stay connected to others because you don’t have to be alone in your grief
  • Be open to the pain and hurt you feel, you may think its easier to avoid that pain but eventually those emotions will surface and demand your attention.
  • Expect to experience different stages such as shock, denial, anger, sadness and eventually hope.
  • Learn from other people who have already experienced loss because their survival is comforting and an example that you too will endure and find joy again.
  • Gaining some knowledge of the grief process by reading or talking to a counselor grief group or clergyman will help

    • JoAnne Funch founded Heartache To Healing to support and inspire those who are suffering through life transitions by sharing her personal story of surviving loss and learning to live a life of purpose and meaning. To receive FREE practical steps you can take now to begin the journey from heartache to healing by going to; http://www.heartachetohealing.com