Creating Your Best Relationship

It may to difficult to accept but the ingredients for a happy and
fulfilling relationship with your significant other or spouse rests on
the foundation of acceptance. Acceptance of the reasons you fell in
love in the first place. Acceptance of who that person is at their
core. Acceptance of all the little things they do.

  • Acceptance does not imply giving up.
    It is not a negative term. It is acknowledging reality. Acceptance
    means that we come to understand and accept our mate and our life for
    what it is. There is no judgment involved. It means that we accept
    things as they are, not as we think they should be.
  • Understand fully the difference between what is and what you think should be. You
    know, wishful thinking. An abusive spouse is what is; your belief that
    he or she is going to change any minute is what you think reality
    should look like. Big difference.
  • Acceptance does not suggest that if your lover is abusive to you that you simply accept it and do nothing? No.
    You do accept it as a fact but then you are free to make a decision as
    to what you will do next. There are plenty of options but all of them
    are based on acceptance of what is. You can choose to take a different
    approach to the problem and see if that works. You can choose to leave
    the abusive situation. The choice is yours.
  • Here is the core truth behind acceptance.
    You have heard it before: