We Are Family

It started with a boy and a girl. They met and fell in love. One day the boy found the courage to talk to a friend or two, maybe his parents, maybe her parents. He saved for a ring. He planned the evening and how he would “pop the question”. He made all of the plans and finalized the details. He dreamed of her answer

She saidyes! and this is where things change!

She’s talking to all of her friends, setting a date, making decisions, people are hosting parties. This is when traditions and expectations ofthe day start manifesting. The stress and strain of the 12 hour wedding day overshadows the simple story, boy meets girl, they fall in love and live happily ever after.

Major life changes, such as getting married, creates stress. The average wedding takes approximately 250 hours (six, 40 hour work weeks) for a novice (novice a person who is new to the circumstances, work, etc., in which he or she is placed; beginner; one who is not a professional wedding planner.) to plan.

How much time will you spend planning your MARRIAGE? How much time are you dedicating to the next 20, 40, 60 years of life together?

Marriage combines two very different and unique families. Each man and woman enters adulthood with their family of origins history of how things are done. Each processes their emotions based on what they learned in their family. The morals, values and ethics of each individual is based upon their specific family of origin. Each family unit has opinions on politics, religion, children, grandparents, the roles of men and women, sex, homosexuality, money and finances, types of cars to drive, where to live, how and when to vacation. The list of unique qualities is as detailed as the most elaborate wedding one could imagine!

When all of these differences come together, as in a marriage, great calamity can arise.

Allow us to share a bit of experience with you in order to help you put down the foundation for your marriage. How your future in-laws see you in action during the planning process of your wedding will greatly influence how they see YOU for the remainder of your married life.

Blood is thicker than water! Keep in mind, each of your parents are turning over the care of their children to another person.

  > Brides, talk with your family. Grooms, you talk with your family.

  > Make a list of questions, as a couple, that you would like to have addressed by the other family.

Find out from each family what’s important to them. Listen, you do not have to agree! Conflict Resolution 101, listen to the other side.

  > Flowers, food, venue, guests, linen, ceremony, singers, music, you may be surprised.

  > Lady Diana Spencer and Sir Charles Phillip Arthur George Windsor did not get to have their wedding their way!

Money and Guest List talk with your families.

 > Who is putting in how much money? How many guests can eachgroup/family invite?

 > National average is $165.00/guest on average

Create a budget that includes every aspect of the wedding from bridal gown to honeymoon expenses.

  > Pull a credit report

  > What was yours is now ours. Are you willing to assume credit card debt?

Request a copy of the others driving record

  > Do one of you have an SR22?

Talk about money, it is the number one reason for couples to fight and divorce

 > How do you budget?

 > How do you pay your bills by check, on line, on time?

 > How do you save?

        – For vacation

        – Large purchases

        – A home

        – A new car

Always request two certified copies of the marriage certificate

 > Change your Social Security card FIRST

 > Then the remainder of legal documents

Do not enter into an argument with people involved with the wedding.

 > How right do you want to be at the risk of damaging a relationship?

Hopefully these points will help start to think about planning your marriage.

Might we also remind you that the only person who knows every single detail of your wedding day is you.

at the end of the evening – a boy met a girl, they fell in love and lived happily ever after.

LUXE Award Winner Best Nebraska Wedding
HER Magazine Wedding Planner of the Year

Angela M. Brant,
President
In the Details Event Orchestration
6314 South 174th Street ~ Omaha, Nebraska 68135

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