Want to Lose Weight? Let Go of FEAR

The difference between the two and how you see yourself is significant if you want to be making more and more money. When you are the driver you know you have the power to control how your life turns out. When you are the passenger you feel powerless to control your life and believe that lifehappens to you.

The first is a prosperous mindset and the second is a poor, scarce mindset. Can you feel the difference?

My intro Rise Above Mediocrity comes from the belief that we have the power to create the kind of wealth and success that we want in our lives. If we believe the opposite, then we have to know that we are the creators of the mediocrity of our lives and along with the struggles around money and success.

The poor, scarce person’s mindset is one in which they fail to take responsibility for what is happening in their life. They play the role of victimnow, wait a second before you send me an email and scold meI didn’t say they were a victim, just that they play the role of victim. I don’t believe anyone is a victim. People play the victim because they think it will get them something in the long run.

Now I’m sure that no one reading this is of that mindset, but you might know someone who is. Victims leave three clues that people in the driver’s seat can spot very clearly. See if you can notice these three clues in people you feel are playing the role of victim when it comes to their destiny.

Clue #1 Blame

Victims love to look at everything before (if they ever!) look towards themselves for why they are not making the money they claim to desire.

They blame the government, the stock market, greedy investors, the company they work for, God, the type of business they’re in, their parents in essence everything and everyone EXCEPT themselves.

It is always easier to blame others than to look towards one self. But the problem is that when you are looking outward you NEVER have an opportunity for self-growth or personal reflection which, by the way, is the foundation for being in the driver’s seat!rticle text

Clue # 2 Complaining

Complaining is a colossal waste of time. Not only is it a waste of time, but it’s one of the worst things you can do if you are trying to create wealth. Why? Because what you focus on expands according to the Law of Attraction, of which I am a firm believer.

When you are complaining, what are you focused on? The NEGATIVE! So if you complain that you are broke guess what? You’ll be broke. If you complain about how you can’t seem to bring in any new clients guess what? You won’t be able to attract new clients to your business.

Have you ever noticed how complainers usually have terrible lives? I know a woman who always complains; she never takes responsibility for anything and loves the phrase,But I didn’t do anything wrong. Guess what? She didn’t do anything right either. She has the most miserable life of anyone I know and luckily, I don’t see her very often and that’s by my choice.

Stay away from complainers they will suck the life out of you.

Clue # 3 Justifying

We all know what a justification or rationalization sounds like. It’s those words that people will use to explain away almost anything they can think of that hasn’t quite gone their way.

I love when I hear people say,Money isn’t really that important. Really? You’re kidding, right? The only people I know that ever make that statement are people who are broke. For the rest of us, we know that money IS important.

People with money understand the place of money in our society. They don’t need to make stupid rationalizations that money isn’t as important as love. That’s like saying my hand is more important than my earhow ridiculous.
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You can’t pay your mortgage with love, or buy food with it, or do any philanthropic work without it, so stop deluding yourself into believing that money isn’t important.

Blaming, complaining and justifying are stress reducers so that it doesn’t feel so bad for being broke and a failure.

So the next time you hear yourself blaming, complaining or justifying, stop yourself immediately and remind yourself that you are in the driver’s seat of your life. Remind yourself that you are creating your financial destiny.

Do you want to be mediocre or phenomenal? Do you want to be a victim or do you want to be wealthy?

You can’t be both, so decide today!

Maureen Campaiola, known by her clients, asthe DARE Coach is President of DARE To Be Phenomenal. As an accomplished business coach, author, speaker and entrepreneur Maureen spends her time in the trenches working on solving the unique problems of women business owners and entrepreneurs. She can always be counted on to deliver smart , innovative solutions to turn a hectic and draining business into a thriving, highly lucrative, smooth running, and fun money making reality. In addition, she is the founder of the wildly successfulSuccess Minded Women’s Business Network where like-minded and highly motivated women connect, support and engage in joint ventures. To learn more about how you can step into your greatness, accelerate your business, AND achieve all the personal and business success you desire visit: www.daretobephenomenal.com or email: maureen@daretobephenomenal.com Want to Lose Weight? Let Go of FEAR20226Want to Lose Weight? Let Go of FEARI was having fun watching my two cats play one morning when I had one of those AHA moments. I had one of those out of the blue’ moments of clarity that enlightened, empowered and inspired me. The pussycats were playing a leap-frog kind of game when the play turned into aggression. Both cats puffed up’ almost simultaneously. Raised hair on the back and a puffed-out tail are animalistic signs of defensiveness or hostility. In a flash, I thought of the many people I work with who are struggling with weight gain. No matter how many diets or exercise regimens they begin, quit, and begin again they can’t seem to shed unwanted pounds. Have they puffed up’ in fear or hostility? Do my overweight clients have a subconscious fear of losing weight, of the vulnerability of getting rid of their armour of fat?

When you are in a state of fear you cling to your current comfort zone. This fear prevents action. It holds you back. You want to lose weight so badly that it consumes much of your waking thoughts, yet you self-sabotage your weight loss progress for fear of the person you will find under the layers of fat. You are scared of who you are at your innermost core! Being able to stay hidden underneath the extra poundage is a payoff for staying fat. You don’t do anything, such as keeping on unwanted weight, unless you get something out of it. Wearing a fat suit has become part of your identity, and taking off that mask would reveal what you are truly like underneath. What if you don’t like what you see? Obese people fear being exposed if the fat were gone and they had nothing left to hide behind. They fear of losing weight and this fear is grounded in their low self esteem.

Fear of weight loss is not uncommon, especially for those who’ve been overweight since childhood. When self-esteem and health goals collide, the body image goals often triumph. If you have low self-esteem, if you don’t like, or you reject, who you are you will not be able to make positive changes. The ability to move beyond fear, vulnerability and low self-esteem does not come from a place of disgust or self-rejection. Any diet or exercise regime that you engage in that is inspired by self-disgust will be negative and punitive. It will not deliver the outcome, the weight loss, you hope to achieve. Your body will fight back at every turn with the egoic behavior of self-protection and survival. You will stay heavy or puff up’ even more because you’re beating yourself up more and more. The more you beat up on yourself the harder it is to reach for a healthy self-image and let go of your fear. And the vicious cycle becomes a tired repetitive pattern of weight gain, weight loss, more weight gain.

You are not your body. You are your intuition, personal passions, truth and the voice of your inspiration. Get in touch with that part of you. Discover who you are hiding underneath your body weight protection. Learn how to love yourself, unconditionally, and you will effortlessly shed the shields that hide you. You were brought to this earth to live out loud! Come out of hiding and share your magnificent self with the rest of the world. Everyone has a potential for greatness within. Shine the light on yours, let us see who you are. You are a gift just waiting to be unwrapped.

Valery is a Moxie Master, Author, Mentor and Coach who will teach you how to have the confident courage to go after what you REALLY want with unrelenting drive and passion. That’s Moxie! Claim your truth, own your power & command your stage with her unique fast Moxie Up! process. Get going. Get it done. Moxie Up! today! Get free tips at http://www.MoxieTherapy.com