What Choices Are You Making About Money?

I was discussing a love problem with a friend the other night.  She’s had a string of terrible relationships over the last twenty plus years I’ve known her.  She picks the same kind of man over and over again.  In the end, they are always terrible picks and she ends up playing out the same issues with each one.

This got me thinking about the issue of choice.

Clearly she has made many bad choices.  In essence she has created a “pattern of bad choices.”  The same can be true about our relationship with money.

Anyone can have a short-term financial situation that puts them behind the eight ball due to extenuating circumstances — sickness, a job loss or a failed business.

But when your financial situation and the choices you make continue to put you in a precarious situation, when money issues crop up over and over again or when the same financial predicament grows more and more destructive, an unhealthy pattern of actions with money exists.

Financial struggles exist because of ongoing negative patterns in our relationship with money — NOT because of situations or circumstances.

Look, we all have patterns.  I love to sit in the same spot at dinner; I feel out of place if I sit somewhere else.  You probably can think of patterns of behavior that you stick with in your own life.

These types of habits are fine as long as they don’t cause harm.

But when our habits are negative and harmful to our best interest, they can be a great source of unhappiness and self-destructive behavior.

Some financially self-destructive patterns include:

• Stuffing  unopened mail in places where you won’t see it
• Not paying bills on time
• Never paying off credit card balances in full
• Repeated arguments with loved ones about money
• Feeling of worry, dread and despair regarding money
• Ignoring bank statement and investment summaries
• Feeling like you will never get out of the hole

Of course this list is not exhaustive as many other financially self-destructive behaviors exist.  If you are engaging in any of these or other self-destructive behaviors, then it’s time to do something about it.

One thing I know from my own experience is how much I suffered due the patterns of behavior I engaged in.  Once I learned how to change my thoughts and actions regarding money, my relationship with money changed too.

Naming it is the first step and taking action is the second.  That’s why I invite you to call and schedule a complimentary Money Discovery Session with me so we can get you moving in the right direction in 2012!  I look forward to your call.

Call me at 978-794-4991 or email me at maureen@breakthroughyourmoneybs.com

You can change your relationship with money.

Written by Maureen P. Campaiola, CEO of Break Through Your Money BS. A recovering over-spender, over-charger, and someone teetering on the brink of bankruptcy, Maureen faced her money fears head on busting through her money drama and now enjoys the freedom that only true money recovery can bring. Maureen understands the stumbling blocks, mindset problems and self sabotaging behaviors many women engage in that prevent them from making AND keeping the kind of money they want. What she has come to realize is a vast majority of women keep repeating self-sabotaging and unconscious money habits, don’t know how to break free of their “glass money ceiling”, and can’t figure out how to create empowering money habits. Her money story had a direct impact on her ability to make and keep the kind of money that she wanted each and every year. That was until she found how to change her money story. As a Certified Money Breakthrough Coach she’s here to help you change yours!  Contact Maureen at Maureen@breakthroughyourmoneybs.com or call her at 978-794-4991.