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As I began to reach my late forties and beyond, I began to realize that ???

AGING IS NOT AN OPTION This presupposition exists to remind us that the time clock ticks away, we will get old! As this happens, we deal with aging in various ways:

> We fight it.

> We give in and give up.

> We acknowledge and embrace the challenges, enjoying the wisdom that comes with aging, and Seize the Glow!

We don’t conquer anything and there’s no need to fight
Dr. W. Dyer

The first way, fightingthe aging process, is a clich we’ve heard before. But examination of that mindset reveals that fighting requires using energy that comes from negative background. Fighting never brings about the desired outcome. Why? Fighting something, anything really, is to attempt to reach firm resolution on the other side of an argument or situation. There really never is a cut and dry answer to what it means to fight the aging process. So why go there? Fighting is an act of desperation. We need not despair aging. Aging beautifully and gracefully demands that we take on the powerful journey using many different methods and solutions while discovering the right path that works for each individual. It is the work of self-examination!

GIVING IN AND GIVING UP. We’ve witnessed the been there done thatmentality. People who’ve raised their family, had their career, and are perfectly content being someone that they hardly even recognize anymore when they look in the mirror. These individuals revel in the past, not the present nor the future. They live life as if in a rut; they do not want to try new things or search new ways and are usually fixed in their beliefs, as opposed to being open to life’s wonders and self-reinvention. This begins the process of dying, if you will. Notice children.

Children are continuously reinventing themselves as they revel in novel ideas and new learning. Unfortunately, many who fall into the giving upcategory, living life in a going along to get alongparadigm.

Certainly, medical problems can be a setback, however barring serious medical conditions, they have completely let themselves go. Often times depression, a life unfulfilling or event(s) that were stressful bring about this situation. Conversely, the mentality is victim-based as in life happened this way for merather than looking squarely and owning the results and choices that brought them to this place. This is what the coaching world deems as scarcitymentality = living life as if there is not enough to go around, with mind chatter such as, there are no good men out there, there are no solutions to my problems, I’ll never be happythere is never enough.

ACKNOWLEDGING AND EMBRACING reclaims the power to be and feel one’s very best no matter what age. It is not all about plastic surgery, great hairstyles and make-up techniques, although that is and can be a small part of it. It is about inner and outer synergy. The opposite of scarce mentality, is to own the abundance mentality which adds to the outer glow that no plastic surgeon or esthetician or make up line can substitute for altogether. The aging woman who lives in abundant mentality also knows that problems, no matter how large, do exist as a part of life and can be resolved. It requires continuous self-improvement and balancing all that she loves and does. She also knows that ownership of one’s existing state is the halfway point to solving problems. She knows that a good night’s sleep requires being a continually self-cleaning awareindividual who takes continuous inventory of herself, challenging patterns and thoughts, and yes image (to the degree that the old hairstyle or make up of 10 years ago may no longer work). Choosing joy and leading a life in such a way that at every turn and challenge new choices exist.

It takes effort and courage to self-examine. One must also be prepared to deal with the demons and skeletons, the dark side and take all parts of ourselves into account, the good the bad and the ugly all play a part as well and are all useful!

By the time we reach old age, we get the face that we deserve.

Sophia Loren

A very famous actress once said that when we get old we get the face we deserve. What I interpreted that to mean, and I am almost sure that this was her intention to so speak, is that living a life of victimhood, sorrow, denial and conflict versus dealing with all of these inevitable feelings in a healthful and appropriate manner, will determine our look.

Indeed, we are branded both physically and mentally by our thoughts and feelings and the voices within, more so than by DNA and inherited traits from mom or dad which also play a part.

Taking on the Art of Aging means to take inventory of all parts of ourselves, reclaim those parts we’ve denied, acknowledge those parts we’ve termed as failureand look to those as learning experiences. Failure has a bad rap. I prefer to use the word learning opportunityin its place.

Every time we take ourselves on in powerful ways, it is what I term investing in oneself.

By Mary Golly, Certified Performance Coach
VECTOR COACHING
http://www.vectorcoaching.com

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