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Things go wrong. The oven malfunctions, the appetizer burns, and your snooty in-laws arrive to a smoke-filled house. You’re leaving for your brother’s wedding and the baby throws up on the perfect silk dress you shopped for months to find. The flight home from the conference your boss made you attend is late. You miss your own birthday party.

A meltdown is yours to have. The sweetheart who wants to earn points (or what my hubby and I call Frequent Foreplay Miles) shows support with,That really sucks! and leaves you to rant n rave until you realize you’ve crossed the line from justifiably upset to childish.

There are times, however, when the meltdown is up for grabs and goes to the first taker. Example: Hubby Dale and I were traveling by rent-a-wreck from Point Nowhere to Point End-of-the-Earth in Patagonia. Mid-way, the the car died. Just as I opened my mouth to lament that we would be robbed and left to die where our bodies would never be found, Dale had a 10-on-the-Richter-scale tantrum. He pounded the steering wheel, turned the air blue, blue, blue, then got out of the car and began maniacally kicking it. Dang! I had been too slow on the uptake. He called dibs on the meltdown. It was my turn to stay calm. I didn’t try talking him off the ledge. I didn’t point out that his behavior wasn’t solving our dilemma. I let him enjoy the moment, supporting him by throwing in a few expletives of my own. He called losing-it-dibs. Fair is fair.

Although I didn’t get to have my meltdown, I’ve gotten good laughs from telling the story of when mild-mannered Dale went postal. And when I tell it, I get to throw in my highway robbery fears. It worked out. It usually does.

Here’s the rule: When what goes wrong happens to both of you, only one of you gets to have the meltdown. The other one stays calm. Someone has to deal with whatever it is that went wrong. Trust me on this. It’s the best way to avoid an argument and the quickest way to get your crazed sweetie back to the world of the sane.

Jean knows how to work the system. Richard’s meltdowns are preceded by a throbbing vein in his forehead. When one of the kids spilled cherry Kool-Aid all over the family room sofa and Richard’s vein began to throb, she seized the opportunity to get the new sofa she’d been wanting and beat him to the punch. She figured Richard would more readily agree to a new sofa if it was she who had the tantrum. She was right. Smart woman.

When things go wrong and you respond with a meltdown, the last thing you want to hear is that your behavior is ridiculous. So, the next time your love bug has a meltdown, return the favor. Giving your partner space to be less than perfect without being holier-than-thou judgmental is a great way to sustain intimacy by saying,I love you, imperfections and all. You’ll earn Frequent Foreplay Miles and we can all use those!

Shela Dean is a Relationship Happiness Coach, speaker and author of the upcoming Frequent Foreplay Miles, Your Ticket to Total Intimacy due out late September 2009. For more information or to reserve your autographed copy, visit www.FrequentForeplayMiles.com. DARE To Be Phenomenal Women’s Business Network Is Looking For YOU!18862DARE To Be Phenomenal Women’s Business Network Is Looking For YOU!OUR NEXT EVENT IS TUESDAY, AUGUST 25, 2009..

Did you know that the Greater Boston Area has a networking event just for women?

DARE To Be Phenomenal Women’s Business Network is the premier networking event for the Massachusetts and New Hampshire area. Established in March of 2009, DARE To Be Phenomenal Women’s Business Network currently has 192 members from the Greater Boston and Southern New Hampshire Area. Our group is growing fast at an average rate of 1.2 new members joining daily!

Who Are We?

Dare to Be Phenomenal Women’s Business Network is a community of like minded women who are looking to take their business and their life to a whole new level and are willing to dare themselves to the limit in order to have a phenomenal life! Is this you?

Whether you are an entrepreneur, business professional, small business owner or someone interested in changing your current circumstances to pursue your true passion, DARE To Be Phenomenal is here for you. We look forward to helping you on your journey to becoming the phenomenal woman we know you are!

Together we will:

Support each other as we take risks in our life and business!
Share tips and techniques on business strategies and profitability!
Encourage one another to be the bold, courageous, and fearless!
Hold the vision of that phenomenal life that we want!
Make new friends, forge new relationships and provide support and inspiration along the way!
Swap business cards and watch our personal business directories grow!

What Are Members Are Saying

If you want to meet quality women who will celebrate your successes and support you in your desire to achieve more, then this is a group for you. Terrie Bulger, 180 Fitness

Can you imagine the power and energy created by having over 70 PHENOMENAL women in one room?? It’s a wonderful opportunity to recgonize our many interests and the networking potential is phenomenal!! See you at the next event!! Dyan, The Trump Network

If you want to interact with successful professionals who are talented and creative then you will not hesitate in joining this group. Maureen graciously shares her expertise by providing phenomenal tips and strategies to help you bring your business to the next level. You will receive more than had hoped for. Gail DiNoto, Design Solutions By Gail

If your goal/purpose is to Empower other business women to BE their BEST with a win-win mindset, compassion and support….that IS the group for you Chantal Boudreau, Quantum Healing

There was something for everyone — successful entrepreneurs, aspiring small business owners, and even people like me, who have always worked for large corporations, but are enthusiastically seeking support and inspiration to explore and create alternatives for ourselves. Gail

To register for upcoming events go to: DARE To Be Phenomenal Women’s Business Network or for additional information contact Maureen at 978-794-4991 or by email at maureen@daretobephenomenal.com

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