Relationship Books: A Woman’s Worth

What makes a woman “far more precious than rubies” as described in Proverbs 31?
Is it the clothes she wears, the length of her hair, the pigmentation of her skin tone? Can it be the way she faces challenges, helps others, or carries herself with grace and poise?

Can it be a combination of all these? It could very well be. You see, the worth of a woman is determined by her. She sets the standard by which every one treats her. She is easily identified by her glowing magnetism, passion for life, enterprising nature, benevolent heart, and sense of family and community. She is committed to not living beneath her privilege. This is the kind of woman that has something that every other woman wants. She is confidently comfortable in her own skin. She is in sync with God and knows that He has absolutely the best of everything for her. A woman of value knows where she is going in life and knows what she wants. Above all else, this woman is always a lady.

Self-worth or value is a personal decision to expect more of yourself and others. This decision drives actions that challenge you to look for quality and to be of quality to others. Some women come readily equipped with self-worth because of positive life experiences during childhood and reinforcement from loving mothers and fathers. Other women are deficient in this area because of abuse, absent fathers/mothers, or other disempowering circumstances. It takes these women longer to understand what self-worth is and, generally, has a negative impact on their romantic relationships.

A woman of value and self-worth demonstrates confidence in her mannerisms, lifestyle choices, and sometimes work. Women, who understand the power behind their value, know they are sought with a keen eye by the partner that will honor that value.

There are men who say they want a woman who represents high-quality, morals, and values, but they themselves have a bargain-basement mentality and seek to haggle on what they know they can’t afford to have or are willing to pay to get. In other words, they are not willing to pay the high price tag, figuratively speaking, for that caliber of woman.Ladies, stop doubting your ability to attract him and watch him come running in your direction. He may already be on his way to you, but he can’t catch up with you because you’re too busy chasing the wrong man!

Too many times women of value have compromised with men like this and settled for a lower standard. The result ended in wasted time, resentment, and broken hearts.

Women who value themselves and know their self-worth expect the men they choose to honor, respect, and deliver, at minimum, an equal exchange for that value. These women don’t chase men. They will not play the game and understand that to do so undermines their confidence that the right man will appear at the right time and will be worthy of their time. They know they don’t have to do what every other woman is doing to get any man’s attention. This is why she stands out as someone uniquely special. All kinds of men are attracted to this kind of woman. But she is discriminating and will not tolerate foolishness.

Studies have shown that in today’s society there are possibly 8-10 more single women to every single man. This may appear that the odds are against a high quality woman ever finding a man. Not so. Why? Because quantity is not QUALITY. Don’t be discouraged…as surely as God created Eve for Adam, you bet He created you for someone special! At the end of the day, what any decent and good man really wants is a woman of quality and value.

Author/Speaker/Talkshow Host, Kim Harris, just released her new relationship book. For more information visit http://www.awomanlikeme-amanlikeyou.com