Confidence and Self-Esteem: How Does Your Life’s Garden Grow?

Core Confidence is having the courage to unplug from the beliefs of society that keep us playing small. I’m very happy and hopeful for the use of the advances in neuroscience.

We have learned more about the brain, mind and nervous system in the past decade than in all the recorded centuries combined.

Why now? There can be several reasons and the ones I feel are surely relevant would be the following:

1. New technology
2. Open-minded scientists who are willing to explore the unknown instead of only staying within theircontrollable comfort zone.

It is a travesty how some researchers fight off new information that conflicts with what they want to perpetrate or believe. Knowing the tricks that the mind can play though, I think that sometimes this is done innocently. Our fear-based mindsets tend to want to hold onto predictability so unless there is a deeper awareness of the willingness to embrace change, it is common for people to close their minds to information that conflicts with their existing paradigm of the world.

Today I saw on the Oprah Show a conversation regarding weight and self-love. Overall, the message is one that I talk about often, which is that self-love and acceptance needs to be the starting point to personal growth and empowerment. There is a myth perpetuated within the psyche of most people that beating ourselves up is perfectly acceptable as a way to change behavior.

Talk about ignorance, this is just what you need to avoid! What you resist persists and creating feelings of shame is the last thing you want to do if you want to feelgood enough. Just think about this you are trying to feel good enough by beating yourself up. This is backwards.

Think of the flower garden since it is springtime. When your perennials come through the soil they look scrawny and dull. Or, if you plant a seedling, it starts out puny looking. Do you step on it? Do you spit on it can call it stupid, ugly or too skinny/big?

Or do you nurture it with loving energy, water and nutrients. Sunshine makes it grow, not covering it up and hiding it. We don’t sayshame on you, you ugly plant. Well, I have news for you; you are a part of Nature also. You need to be nurtured to grow, to shine and be your best also.

I’m not saying that you are to pretend (you may have to at first act enthusiastic and you will become so you can reverse these beliefs), nor am I saying to condone and stay stuck where you are. I’m advocating looking at your life through eyes of compassion and say that you are doing your best at this point and that you are EVOLVING, expanding and growing.

If you keep your attention on the outcome, the potential that can unfold, and just be grateful as much as possible where you are, your mind can shift as you keep your attention on this positive outcome. Your mind is like a missile seeking machine. It goes just where you focus attention. Its goal is to get what you focus on and the more emotion you have attached, the more powerful the mind moves to wire the brain and bring it to pass by causing the actions that you take.

You want a beautiful life garden? Stop hating yourself and learn to love yourself. This is what I’m teaching others as I use to believe something was wrong with me and that I was unlovable to the core. Now, finally, Iknow that I know I’m good enough. It has absolutely nothing to do with race, beauty, social or financial status. No, doggone it; I’m good enough because I breathe! As they say God don’t make no junk.

This kind of confidence and self-esteem can only be found by opening your mind, understanding how you were programmed in the first place and how to release these energetic stories, and getting in touch with your Authentic Self, and listening to your Guidance. It’s about letting go of the story aboutwho you think you are and realizing who you really are. Removing thecataracts of the soul will allow you to see a whole new world, from the inside out!