DARE to Turn a Setback into a Comeback

There are some things in life there ALL of us can relate to love, success, dreams, goals and definitely setbacks. Setbacks are simply an unavoidable occurrence as we move through our lives and usually, unfortunately, they sneak up on us with little warning. Try as we might, the slipper slope of a setback is usually far beyond our control to prevent or to abate. It seems it is just part of the human journey.

So what are we to do to turn a setback into a comeback? First of all, just accept the above we ALL go through unexpected downturns and detours. And even if you do feel that it was a decision you made or something you did that caused the turn of events, once it’s set into motion, the wisest thing to do is to learn from it!

So the first lesson we’re always invited to grab is one of determination. Do we hang up our hat and give up on our goals just because of a detour? With any luck your answer to this question is no. Because where would we be if that were true? No accomplishments from the smallest invention to space travel can be realized without passing through a road riddled with setbacks and potholes.

Recently, the website for The Daring was broken into and ruined. Believe me, my commitment to creating a forum for daring women over the last few years has been tremendous. I have devoted myself to this goal on every level why? Because I know that women are the heartbeat of this world and that we often put ourselves last on our list. Our dreams get pushed aside too easily as we juggle to fulfill all the demands upon us day after day. But there is always that place inside that dares us to be more it dares us to claim those goals and dreams and GO for them.

And so I could not let my setback stop me from working toward this goal. How could I? Inspiring others is simply not a dream/vision I can let go of. So there’s lesson #2 don’t let ANYTHING or ANYONE stop your dreams. Use that setback to remind yourself how much you want that goal in your life. Recommit to it and then immediately begin your comeback!

Lesson #3 – Start by plotting your course of action. What do you need to do to get back on track? Is it a matter of expertise or finances? Whatever it is, once you have your plan in place, start your journey by letting everyone in your life know what threw you off track. Because without a doubt you have surrounded yourself with successful, resourceful, passionate people. Those people will surprise you with their devotion to you and their passion for you to hit your dreams. Why? Because they KNOW what setbacks are and they know what dreams are.

Lesson #4 – Your setback is an opportunity to regroup, refocus and recommit to your passion.

Copyright 2009, Francine Allaire and The Daring LLC.

Francine Allaire is a Life and Business Strategist, Certified Dream Coach